Mother’s Day 2021
What does Motherhood look like to you?
Mother's Day in Avery's Garden: What does motherhood look like to you? In honor of Bereaved Mother's Day (observed May 2rd) and Mother's Day (observed May 9th) Avery's Garden is hosting a creative grieving contest!
💛We are asking each participant to showcase what motherhood looks like to you. You must choose 1 or more forms of artistic expression to demonstrate how you symbolize your motherhood. This can be things such as photography, crafts, poems and writings, dance video, painting, drawing, etc. Any art form is acceptable.
💛Between now and 9pm (Central Time) May 8th, come up with a brand new expression of your motherhood and submit it to us at: averysgarden16@gmail.com.
*Please include a brief explanation of your art piece, your name, who made you a mother and what area you are from.
All entries will be collected and a winner will then be announced on May 9, 2020. All entries will be published on our website to demonstrate the beauty and diversity of our stories. We will also be sharing the entries on our social media pages. The winner will get to select 3 FREE Avery's Garden Coloring Books!!
Best of luck and I look forward to seeing everyone's amazing heartwork this Mother's Day.
2021 Participants
Highlights from our 2020 Mother’s Day
Morgan A.- North Carolina
“I am a mama to one beautiful little girl. Hollyn Rae Allen made me a mama on October 2,2019. My Motherhood is not defined by my child not being here physically. Motherhood is far more than what is or is not here physically. Every Motherhood whether it is to a child in Heaven or Earth, teaches you things you’d never know, shows you the REAL true meaning of love, and shows you the hardships. My Hollyn is not here physically with me but she is here through everything else. All her signs to show us she is guiding us & protecting us every single day. My daughter has taught me the beauty in nature, the little things in life, and how to be a better person.”
Jennifer J.- Texas
“Being a mother to me now means painting rocks in honor of my son. Spreading word around of him and our story with the hashtag RocketmanRoams. Vincent Liam Jackson is who made me the mother I am today. Below are pictures of the first rocks I made, my special rocket rocks and the amazing gift my mother gave me when she found out about the journey I was about to start with wanting to paint rocks for Vincent.”
Amanda C.- France: **Selected Winner**
"Motherhood has taken many forms for me and over the years, it has transformed me. It’s made my life something I never imagined it could be. Ellie and Oliver helped me to see so many beautiful, wonderful things, despite the tragedy of their loss. They taught me what a Mother’s love is.
Motherhood for me started over 5 years ago. The baby we wished for with all of our hearts seemed so impossible, and I knew from the start it was going to be a hard journey. Yet, we were both willing to work for our impossible dream.
Motherhood for me was four years of multiple failed rounds of IVF and heartbreak. Yet, never giving up, it was continuing to hold onto the hope that one day we would have a family of our own. It was dreaming that we would one day have a home full of love, life and laughter.
Motherhood when I first got pregnant was pure joy. At that point, being a Mom was making sure that I ate right, took walks to stay healthy, and lots of stress worrying about every little thing. It was also relief, all of those years of trying and failing had finally paid off. We would finally have our beautiful family.
Motherhood throughout my pregnancy was celebrating every small victory. Each month that passed, I thought that my heart couldn't feel fuller. The more they grew, the more I loved them. Sometimes, I felt as if my heart would burst. We found out we were having a boy and a girl at the last ultrasound before we lost them. We named them Ellie Lynne and Oliver James.
Motherhood the day we lost them was holding their tiny bodies in my arms, singing them a lullaby, and telling them I would always love them.
Motherhood in the days that followed was still getting out of bed despite wanting nothing more than to disappear forever, to trade places with them, pleading with the universe to bring them back. It was the feeling of my heart breaking over and over again knowing that I was leaving that hospital with an empty womb and empty arms.
Motherhood in the months that followed was making sure I kept going despite the never-ending heartbreak. It was seeking help for things I couldn’t control anymore. It was, and still is to this day, being their advocate, and in that finding other loss Moms and talking to them lovingly about our babies.
For me, Motherhood was learning how to crochet and using it to help other families who are struggling through a loss, in honor of Ellie and Oliver.
Motherhood now is talking to the moon and stars at night, lighting their candles, and planting flowers in their memory.
Motherhood is choosing to live.
Motherhood is weathering the storm of grief to the best of our abilities, allowing the waves of pain to ebb and flow. Motherhood is carrying that unconditional love for our babies in our hearts, no matter where they are, no matter how much times passes, and no matter the distance between us."
About the project :
Since losing Ellie and Oliver I knew I wanted to do something for other families that are going through the same pain. I learned to crochet to keep my hands and mind busy. I quickly took to amigurumi. I started making teddy bears for the hospital where I gave birth to our twins. They are now used in the pictures with the babies, and families can choose to bring them home or leave them with their baby.
I decided a few weeks ago to. Make Ellie and Oliver each a bear. This is what Motherhood looks like when we weren't given the opportunity to make memories with our babies.”
Codi N.- Missouri
“Immanuel Anthony Nuernberger made me a mother in July 29, 2018. This is also the same day he went to go be with God. I gave birth to our rainbow 12/2/2019. This is Adaiah’s first time going to see the Angel of Hope and seeing his brothers bricks.”
Sharon S.- Texas
“This is Bereaved Aunt, Hilda holding stillborn baby Emma. Submitted by Grandmother, Sharon. If you look closely you can see tears streaming down on the left side.”
Motherhood can also be spent grieving the losses of our children…and our children’s children. It truly takes a village.
Kara B.
“Creating something special and unique for myself and those I love to honor all of our babies on earth as well as in heaven.”
Amanda W.- Michigan
“I am a mother to a perfect little girl named Gretchen Meredith. She was everything we could have hoped for in a daughter. She was strong and beautiful and taught me that I am strong and beautiful. Motherhood to me is living every day being the kind of person I wanted her to grow up to be. It’s being the strong brave woman I know she would have become. It’s living my life knowing she’s watching and being the best I can be for her. Its not backing down or letting someone make me feel like I’m not a mom. It’s knowing in my heart that even though you can’t see her I am still a mom. I carried her for 40 weeks and 3 days, I labored with her for over 10 hours before an emergency c-section. We had 2 days with her before she passed. She was here and she was real and she forever changed me. Motherhood to me is being proud. I am proud to be her mom.
My art piece is a painting of me holding her weighted bear I made. A piece of me may be missing but I am not broken. And I will show the world my missing piece and wear it where all can see. After 6 early miscarriages we finally had our rainbow and she was everything we ever wanted. I am not ashamed and I will not hide her. I will shout for all to hear MY DAUGHTER WAS HERE!!!!
I have also included a photo of the first and last time I held her.
Gretchen Meredith Rosenbalm February 17th 2019 11:27 pm 7 pounds 4 ounces 21 inches lived 2 days 2 hours and 55 minutes and passed to our ancestors on February 20th 2019 at 2:22 am.”
Heather M.- Illinois
”Motherhood is the greatest joy in life. My oldest Colton made me a mommy and my angel Micah is our guardian. We currently reside in Lake County, Illinois. I promised my Micah that I will keep joy in our home and that I would make him proud. My heart beats for my boys and I know I will see my Micah again. While I am on this earth, my Colton is the the glue that holds my broken pieces together. My joy in life is watching Colton smile and honoring Micah. There are many ways I have found I can honor Micah. Writing, painting, gardening, etc.
Description of images:
My mom, me, and Micah. -My mom also said goodbye to my sister at 40 weeks. The love she has shown through reliving her nightmare is only that love that can come from a mommy. Micah and me. My sweet angel in my arms. Today my big boy and I planted seed paper in memory of Micah. Table of candles we light to honor our Micah. The large shadow box- to the sides of the shadow box I have my Micah bears, the mold of our hands, and my name tag for the grief group meetings. (Micah's mom, Heather Musich). On top and inside - various items from the hospital that touched Micah. One outfit he wore, blankets, hat, clippings of his hair, a comb, his hand and foot prints, and hospital bracelets we wore. The next 2 pictures are crafts I made after preserving the flowers from his funeral. Also a few of the rocks I have painted for him recently. The last picture is a painting with Micah and Coltons handprints. THEY are my sunshine.